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Let's Re-Frame the Crap Out of That! Narcissistic Abuse CAN be a good thing.

woman sad sitting on the floor with  her head in her hands
woman feeling overwhelmed after narcissistic abuse

Something horrible happened- you married a person who, as it turned out is a narcissist, and abuses you (physically, emotionally, financially, sexually, whatever it may be). Of course you didn't know this in the beginning, but now you do. So here you are, feeling stuck, feeling hopeless, wondering who you are, and what in the H.E. Double Toothpicks will you do about it?

You spend so much time beating yourself up about all of this, and you probably believe all of it is somehow your fault... I mean, the narcissist certainly thinks that, and he did his level best to make you as small and weak as possible so you would also believe that.

Your life totally sucks. You have no home, no partner, no future, and maybe you don't have a clue what to do. Maybe you consider harming yourself, I know I did when I was you.

You constantly have this horrible garbage running through your head, it never shuts up! You replay every minutia of the relationship, and the fights, and the breakup over and over in your mind like a broken record... it's driving you crazy!

You aren't taking care of yourself. You don't eat well, you don't sleep much (or you sleep all the time), you don't take care of your home, wash your dishes, do your hair, none of it unless forced to. I bet you lay awake at night staring at the ceiling with your mind racked with worry and grief.

You cry or get angry at the drop of a hat.

Does any of this sound familiar? It should because we all do this after the relationship with a narcissist comes to a loud cacophonous end. Your traumatized brain is scrambling to figure out what in the world just happened, and nothing makes sense. You aren't even sure who you are any more.

I'm here to tell you it doesn't have to be that way. I'm tossing out a huge life raft to you, and all you need to do is grab on. I will pull you out of those dark scary waters, and very quickly get you feeling strong, empowered, thriving, and kicking all of that garbage to the curb.

You see, to some extent its just a matter of reframing and perspective. I'm here to tell you in the beginning of my own ending of that relationship, I was just like you. I could see nothing positive about my situation, or even about myself. But here's the thing, and I know this sounds pretty nuts, but being married to an abusive piece of human garbage is the best thing that every happened to me. Hear me out....

If none of those things happened to me in the past, I wouldn't be the person I am today. I wouldn't have the kids I have. I wouldn't have found my purpose, which is to be here in front of you leading you out of those dark scary waters. I wouldn't truly know my worth, love myself, and be the fierce she-beast narcissist battling person that I am today. That is one massive re-frame job.

So if you want me to work this juju on you too, all you need to do is BOOK A CALL. It's that simple. Welcome to the best days of your life. Let's take that healing journey together.

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